I wanted to touch on this as it is important to understand the basics of how to support a loved one struggling with their mental health. Sometimes, when we haven’t gone through something ourselves, it can be difficult to know the right way to deal with situations. Therefore, we must gain some knowledge to support those closest to us.
I have been on both ends of this, I have needed support with my mental health and I have also been the one supporting others with mental health, I feel like from my experience with my mental health issues I have been able to gain so much knowledge in this topic, I am educated in it and have built tool kits for myself around this which I am now able to give to other people struggling with their mental health.
The basics on how to support loved ones with their mental health:
- Start with empathy – If I am being completely honest, this is extremely important, and how you react is going to set this whole scene. If a loved one has chosen to speak with you and let you know you are struggling, I can’t stress enough how much you need to have empathy for them, giving a “tough love” chat and trying to harden them up isn’t going to work. Instead, listen and don’t try and fix the problem straight away, let them know you are here for them, they are not alone with this and create a safe and non-judgmental space for them.
- Encourage professional help – Gently encourage them to seek help from a professional. I know this is not easy to do, and help from professionals isn’t always accessible straight away, but encouraging them gently to reach out to a GP or mental health professional when they are comfortable to do so can get the ball rolling for them to receive help. Don’t force this; instead, gently encourage.
- Check in regularly – Now they have opened up to you, checking in on them can be comforting, as this shows you care and you haven’t forgotten about their struggles, a simple, text or phone call can go along way just asking how they are doing or just sending a thoughtful message can make all the difference.
- Take care of yourself too – Supporting a loved one going through mental health struggles can be emotionally demanding on yourself, it can bring worry, and some emotional draining. So remember to check in on your mental health, talk to someone you trust or seek some therapy yourself if you think this will help and make sure you are engaging in self-care and looking after yourself. Being the best version of you will also help you support your loved one.
I hope this has helped you gain some knowledge on the basics of supporting a loved one with mental health. Remember, mental health challenges can affect anyone regardless of age, background or lifestyle. You don’t need all the answers to support them, but your support can make a real difference, make them feel heard and less alone on their journey.
Lots of love x